When you are a problemsolver for others

When you are a problemsolver for others. As a person we want to be there for others, we want to help them during difficult periods. We like to do that, because as a human being we are also taught to stand ready for others and not only that counts. It also gives us a good feeling, deep inside. Because what is not better when you help someone else and you are grateful for that. We gladly solve problems of others.

Helping others is good
There are situations where we are ready for others and we help the other, but is it wise to always help the other person? No. Helping someone else is not always good to do. And you notice that in yourself, when you feel a certain feeling. Then there is something in you that says: I am always helping others, but do not get anything in return. I am always there for the other person, but he does not do anything with it. I am there for that other person, but do not show gratitude.

What is the reason to be a problemsolver?
You may wonder, what is the reason that you help the other person? Do you want something in return? If the above voices play through your head, actually. Then you do not give in disinterest. That is allowed, because giving, also means that the other person can give something in return. But if you give and hope to get something in return, the essence of giving is not entirely pure.

Is it wise to help all the time?
There are situations where it is not wise to help someone else and solve the problems of that other person. Every person has lessons to learn in his life. It is our intention that we learn a lot during our youth, so that we will not run into problems in adulthood. So that we are able to solve our problems ourselves, which will always be there. Of course it is nice if someone is there for you in case of calamities, but that help must be temporary.

You have to solve your own problems
You will have to get started yourself once and have to tackle your problems. Because if you don't do that, and you keep leaning on others, those others will let you go at a certain moment. Turning your back. And that does not happen for nothing.

We all have to trust on ourself
The reason for not solving the problems of others is that you take something away from someone else. You deprive the other person of his lessons to grow as a person. To grow to more self-confidence, to more self-awareness and for that reason there is also that voice that I mentioned earlier. That voice is there, so you will stop helping.

The effect of always helping
Always helping others can be tough for yourself. You will loose yourself somewehere in life. You will get tired, frustrated and so on. The advantage for yourself is, much more rest, if you stop to help other always. Dare to say no, if you want to say no. People will like you more if you say no instead of always say yes.

If you always help people, is is difficult to change this. It became a habit. Thankfully there are people who will help you! To help you to see why always helping is not good for you. And also not good for the one you always help. Those persons you can find on www.mediumchat.org. Here you find psychics, mediums, coaches, counselors to show you what is good for you. They can learn you to say no in certain ways. The can learn you don't get angry when somebody expects something from you and you don't want that. The psychisc of www.mediumchat.org shows you how to be nice to yourself and taking good care of yourself. You will still help others, but you do it your way.

Chat with me, Claire on www.mediumchat.org and I gladly tell you all the secrets to take good care of yourself and have the live you want.
 
Datum: 30-01-'19

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