Am I good enough?

Am I good enough? Our lives are mainly about performing. That starts with our birth. The parents hope that you will drink well, that you will come through the nights without much awakening. We are praised for the first words we say, when we take our first steps.

Then the time comes when we go to school and we are required to do our best and above all to be an exemplary pupil, because our parents don't want their child is is difficult, or their child can't come along.

We learn what is good for others
Then everything is taken out of the closet to ensure that you do meet what society demands from us. Being nice, doing your best, being ready for everyone, an exemplary student. All of this has an impact on you as a child, as a person. Much is required of you and there is nothing wrong with positive stimulation. That also gives you confidence and we need that to learn to trust on our own.

As parents we can also place too much emphasis on it and see what is written, the word emphasis. The pressure then becomes too high for the child and meets expectations of his parents, with the result that the child will walk past his own needs, because you want your parents, the teacher, the master, grandfather and grandmother's pride being and staying on you.

The loyalty of a child to his parents and everyone is an almost unbreakable bond and the child wants love, affection and attention, then it feels safe. It will therefore do everything to keep parents and others satisfied.

What creeps in, without this being visible, that the child alienated from himself, his own core. It becomes a pleaser, who will do everything to keep the people around him to be kind and friendly.
The child becomes a giver.

A giver
A giver who always asks himself, Am I good enough, his whole life will continue to struggle with this. After all, it is learned behavior and that change, you first have to go through a deep valley with yourself and then have the will and courage to want to make that change. The man comes along with the hammer on both the relationship and the work surface. Relatively, a giver can't set himself up equally and therefore always gives too much.

For years we can continue this process until everything falls away, relationship, work, with all its consequences. Rather than drowning and overflowing with grief, there is a person who has the best intentions and does not understand why all this misery should happen to him or her. I just want to do well. Not realizing that in his own eyes it is never good enough and is throwing in his own glasses.

Change for the best
This is often the case, very often. And all that, because your parents wanted you to be in step, ignoring what you would want, what would make you happy. You can turn the tide, really! Which steps you have to take for this?

First, Call or chat with a best medium or pshycic on www.mediumchat.org and why! Mediums can tell you why you have become how you are now. They look in your past. And the can give you tips and answers how to change yourself in an person who loves himself. Who is not afraid to be not good enough. If you feel for yourself it is good enough. It is! And then, you take your bounderies and start doing what you like instead to work hard for others. You put yourself on the first place. Then you are good enough.

Kind regards Von, medium mediumchat.org

Datum: 04-02-'19

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