Who caused your pain?

Who caused your pain? We always think that the pain we feel is caused by another or a situation in which we end up, but the pain we feel is almost always caused by ourselves. I now hear your brain gnawing. And full of disbelief. You tend to shoot directly in the defense and want to tell everything. So you think I caused that breakup? You think I myself made sure that I was fired? You dare to claim that it is my fault that my partner has gone strange?

We have no self-love
I'm sorry, but yess, the most situation we are in and we loose somtehing, we do it ourself. And I will explain to you the reason why we hurt ourselves. We hurt ourselves because we do not take care of ourselves well enough. Self-love has never been discussed for a long time. Self-love was a not done word and was seen as selfish. Self-love has nothing to do with selfishness, but we were and still are taught that we should take good care of everyone. Being ready when someone else needs us. You don't count and dare to find yourself important, because then you get a stamp! We are now living with ballast from previous generations, who still determine our actions in the present tense.

A generation before us believe in something
In the past, life was easier, we had something outside of ourselves about what we held onto, believed in, and trusted in. In addition, the division of tasks was clear. Men did the work outside the door and women did the work inside the door. Yet we were not satisfied and we wanted it differently. We wanted equality and that is a good goal. Only equality does not lead to satisfaction, it gives unclearness and therefore more dissatisfaction. And that ambiguity with consequence is not satisfied, because there is an urge for equality and more, that is how we cause pain in ourselves. We now no longer know where we stand, we are searching and searching gives uncertainty, gives stress, gives fear.

We have to learn to believe in ourself
An uncertain life, without clarity, causes pain. Especially pain in case of loss. Loss of a partner by divorce, by infidelity. Because we are still searching for this and do not clearly have what we exactly want and understand under equality and the grip of the past is no longer there, we as humans are surrendered to ourselves.

We are still searching now
We see this back in the individualism of man in the present tense. Which, in fact, is very much focused on itself, but also hurts itself again. Despite the fact that we can say very tough as a person, nothing in life is certain, we do cling to certainties. And if you yourself have little self-esteem by nature, then you live according to the standards of another person and pain arises. You are not clear to yourself, so do not send in time.

This makes you think you can trust someone, but you have never made clear agreements with each other and you do not send in time. And there is no self-confidence. And if that does not happen, we cause that separation ourselves, so we cause ourselves to be unfaithful, because we are not true to ourselves.

What did you learn in your youth
All this is not necessary if you life as a person on the basis of self-confidence, self-respect, self-awareness, self-acceptance. But you have to be taught that at the crucial moments, as a small child, as a teenager. And unfortunately, this still happens too little, because even your parents lack that self-confidence and you can't give it, show it, or tell it.

Get rid of the pain and the suffer
Do you feel hurt and do not get out! Do you want to get rid of that pain, which cuts through your soul. Which shakes you on your foundations? Then know that there are very loving people who can be your support and refuge. These mediums you find on www.mediumchat.org. These mediums and psychics understand your pain, but they also help you through it.

For this they would like to chat with you, to heal you, to show you what hurts you on www.mediumchat.org. They will tell you to live your life that is good for you, a life without pain!

Kind regards, Von top medium mediumchat.org
 

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Datum: 02-02-'19

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