Love is in the air

Love is in the air. We talk a lot about love. We want love, because if there is no love, we are sad, we need it to have a nice life. But what, if love is not in your life now! Do you feel miserable? Do you feel lonely! Do you think a lot about the love of your life? If you say yes, then i have to tell you something. Something that is important to know.

Love is not being together with someone else. Love is insight you. As long as you want love in your life given by someone else, your life will always be a mess. The things you do, will not work out for the best, you are not satisfied about work, money, your house, because you miss something in your life. In fact, you say no to yourself. You ignore yourself completely, because something is missing, that is what you think. You think that you miss a person to make you happy. No one or anything can make you happy. You have to feel happiness first before you can start a relation. Starting a relation without happiness insight yourself, will never work out.

When you feel lonely, you are in an tower, and all your thoughts are negative. I miss something, I want something, I'm not happy, why is this happening to me? And you think that only you have a miserable life. You are a victim of yourself. Everybody in his life has moments of unhappiness. It are moment to grow, to find your beautiful self. Then you learn to embrace yourself. To do things that are good for you. It will give you self confidence. You start glowing, you start taking with strangers in the supermarket. You look in the mirror and what you see, gives you a big smile.

Then there is love in the air. You love yourself, you accept yourself completely. You have self respect. And when you are this far, you can embrace love from somebody else. You will see that other persons will cross your path. Persons who think and feel the same as you. You can laugh with them without any fear. Because you see that love is good, but you want more. You want to go for a person who makes you feel you are for him a priority, because you see yourself as a priority. You are not hoping anymore the other starts loving you. Your life is important also. You see and feel if the other treats you seriously enough. If he takes a distance, you ask why instead of waiting for him to come back.

This is love, real love. Never give yourself to somebody who let you feel you are an appointment in his schedule. Take minimal a year to get to know the other. Because the first six months you see not the real one. After a while you see who the other really is by his behaviour. If you give your hart to quickly, then you want to quickly find love, in fact you are desperate being alone and no one around you.

Love is very precious and we expect from the other to be completely honest. If you think he is, you don't feel it and it is your own fear for loosing him. Starting a relation with desperation is never a good start. The relation will always end.

So be very honest to yourself, see what the other can give you, look at is behaviour, if he can talk with you, if he has a plan. If he is honest, otherwise you will get hurt. Real love is love you can build on. A relation must be a goal, not a given. To many relation ends, not of the love for each other, we give less love to ourself. So love yourself first, before you start loving someone else. So you can make a success of it together. Don't see the other as a person you have to help, to take care of, you are not his mother, you are his wife. If you do so, he will feel not comfortable, he thinks he is a child, you are not equal.

Love is in the air, if you are in love with yourself. It is not selfish to love yourself first. You need it to have a good relationship. If you want to talk or write with me, you are welcome. Kind regards, Von

Datum: 27-10-'18

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